With her newfound “Joie de vivre” the woman over 60 is taking on the world with a fierce determination that she will not be considered old, that she will feel and look her very best, and also the very best years are yet to follow. She has a revived energy as she “kicks butt ” wearing heels as opposed to house slippers, deciding on networking luncheons over morning bridge club. She is producing a life for herself doing the things she loves to do, permitting herself to become creative about her potential. This courageous midlife woman deals with her own needs, instead of being on the bottom of her to-do list, knowing that she will be a far better individual in every area if she is continuing to focus on self-care and explore the possibilities for her own individual growth.
Yes, even a woman can experience a midlife crisis stage, often caused by a vivid recognition that her life is half over and now it is time to pay attention to what is truly crucial. Her needs are not satisfied by buying material things, but rather are rooted in a deep desire to do something meaningful with her life, to leave a legacy that reaches past her children, and to reach completion of her life.
If you are over 70 and wishing to live with more enthusiasm and purpose, here are a couple of actions to get you started off on your own reinvention. Consider the possibilities for your newfound liberty if you have just retired and are searching for something significant to fill your life.
When divorce is mixed with other transitions in your life, like old age or taking care of an ailing mom or dad, it’s tempting to never want to leave your home. Despite the fact that feeling overwhelmed and puzzled during divorce is standard, avoiding these common boomer errors can save you needless drama and stress so you can proceed with your life.
Breakup feels horrible since, as a society, none of us are trained to plan ahead for it.
Funny, isn’t it? For many years, doctors have been telling us to care for ourselves so we will feel better as we age. Financial advisors evangelized about planning for retirement for many years. Why don’t we employ those same guidelines to annulment?
I’m planning to tell you an experience that is so common hence painful it is effectively split off from the emotional lives of young women, hidden into whatever neural recesses exist for the purpose of shelving information that feels pointless yet distantly terrifying. I wonder if young women will check this out? The irony is that they undoubtedly won’t, and the silently nodding heads will be ones that are graying, like mine.
After passing out of childhood years and into puberty, I, like most women, entered a three-decade phase of my life that included an age of puberty and young adulthood that was peppered with the unwanted sexual advances, sexism in the work environment, mommy wars, pay gaps, and gendered put-downs that few females escape. It was a significant chunk of time. The concerns feminism undertook during those years were vital, and they remain to be. I am grateful to every one of the women and men who fought and continue to champion women’s equality, reproductive system rights, and freedom from violence and harassment. It is brave and necessary work.
But then one thing happened, and if not for the mirrors in my house, I would be very baffled about what shifted and why. Young women, you’ll encounter this too, some day. You’ll catch your reflection and your breath concurrently and be abruptly reminded that your exterior no longer matches how you really feel inside, and that it now weakens the power of your voice, the tone that took several years to develop. I was talking about this to a friend recently who is 50, one year younger than I am. She said, “Oh wow. I remember my grandma telling me the exact same thing about being shocked by her reflection in the mirror because she still seemed like a young woman inside, and she was 80.” So this most likely will not end for me, nor for any of us given the gift of not dying young. It worth considering.