But how do these professionals make it happen? How do women over 60 reclaim their “image” after the empty home? What does it take for a midlife woman to take a big leap of faith to leave a profession she has had for decades in order to do something she really loves to do?
As I encounter my own do-over, a woman’s reinvention prompted by her own “midlife crisis” might be summarized in 3 phases:
A woman in her 40 ′ s recognizes that she has been concentrating on others for so long, saying yes to everything out of obligation, while holding unfulfilled goals deep in her soul. She must say “I’m done!” then give herself permission to work on herself for a change. Forgiveness and overcoming guilt are also important parts of this particular step.
Once she is truly “satisfied” with examining history, it is time for her to reconnect with her interests, to uncover her new life objective, and to set some objectives for herself that will make her stretch. It is time for her to empower herself with a plan for an extraordinary future as she anticipates the next few decades. For this woman over 40, the possibilities are endless, and she accepts change with enthusiasm.
With her newfound “Joie de vivre” the woman over 50 is taking on the country with a fierce determination that she will not be considered old, that she will feel and look her absolute best, and also the very best years are yet to come. She has a renewed energy as she “kicks butt ” wearing heels instead of house slippers, choosing networking luncheons over afternoon bridge club. She is making a life for herself doing the many things she loves to do, permitting herself to be creative about her foreseeable future. This fearless midlife woman handles her own needs, as opposed to being on the bottom of her to-do list, knowing that she will be a much better individual in every area if she is continuing to work on self-care and explore the opportunities for her own individual advancement.